Do you take it personally?
Did you ever receive clumsy feedback on the identity level that made you feel hurt, scared and worthless? Most of us did... The distinction between the levels of being and…
How do you respond to politics at work?
How do you respond to political plotting? It may not be easy but it is necessary to contribute to more positive workplaces! And it's something you can do, regardless of…
How do you respond to gossip?
How do you feel when someone gossips or complains about someone else? It depends, of course. It can be great to agree because it creates a feeling of bonding. "The…
How to address monsters in meta?
In this post, let's take a look at how you could address "monsters in the room" and use "meta-communication" that addresses the how and why. First, it's crucial to check…
Is it safe or are there monsters?
I simply love the Crucial Conversations book that covers how to have any conversation and respond to any reaction, while you stay true to yourself and enhance safety and respect…
Are you congruent?
In every interaction there are three levels that influence its effect and meaning: What - the content; the words I say How - the process; how I say it (nonverbal…
Do you engage in drama?
A well-known example of Ego-interaction is the “drama triangle”, described by psychologist Stephen Karpman. One of your self-justifying narratives could be the prosecutor, the victim, or the rescuer. The Victim's…
How do I relate to others?
How do you relate to others? When you look at situations the blind spot is yourself. As you are the source of attention, looking outward, it is not easy to…
What is your vulnerability?
Brené Brown explains that until she dealt with shame and fear, she wore different suits of armor that kept her from becoming too vulnerable. She kept people at a safe…
What is your Purpose?
You might have an idea of your big Why, your drive or purpose. What is the legacy you would like to leave? What is your contribution that you love to…
How well do you know yourself?
Research shows that you deliver your greatest contribution if you know yourself well and use your strengths and work according to your values. Here are some exercises and questions to…
The Pleasures and Sorrows of Work
The British philosopher Alain de Botton could have been a novelist or a journalist. He writes poetically and observant about work. He paints an epic picture of our global economy…