Do you engage in drama?

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A well-known example of Ego-interaction is the “drama triangle”, described by psychologist Stephen Karpman. One of your self-justifying narratives could be the prosecutor, the victim, or the rescuer. The Victim’s stance is “Poor me!” He feels oppressed, helpless, hopeless, ashamed, and can’t make decisions, solve problems, etc. The Victim always finds a Persecutor and a Rescuer – who both perpetuate …

How is your energy?

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In The Power of Full Engagement, Jim Loehr and Tony Schwarz write that managing energy, not time, is the key to high performance. To be engaged, we must be energized physically, emotionally connected, mentally focused and spiritually aligned with a purpose beyond our self-interest. For that to happen we also need rest and recovery – something that is less valued …

What is your vulnerability?

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Brené Brown explains that until she dealt with shame and fear, she wore different suits of armor that kept her from becoming too vulnerable. She kept people at a safe distance and always had an exit strategy – especially in our culture of cynics and critics. But when you armor yourself – you cut yourself off from others and from …

What’s your emotion ratio?

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How do you feel? But how you feel is crucial to developing a positive culture. You cannot fake it till you make it – as the saying goes. People have a radar for authenticity and if you don’t regularly experience positive emotions – you cannot “be the change” and embody positive leadership. What’s your emotion ratio? Barbara Frederickson’s research found …

How well do you know yourself?

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Research shows that you deliver your greatest contribution if you know yourself well and use your strengths and work according to your values. Here are some exercises and questions to use. The Best Possible Self (BPS) exercise asks you to envision yourself in an imaginary future while everything turned out in the best possible way. Writing and imagining a BPS …

Why do we need the positive mindset of possibilities?

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Now that we’ve seen the positive mindset compared to a conventional mindset, and how it fits into our stages of human and organization development, let’s look at why this positive mindset is so important. Why would you try to think positive? Isn’t it safer to stay skeptical, or cynical about our current world and workplaces? You’ll save yourself the pain …

Your positive impact anywhere, anytime, in any role

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Even if you work in a mean, power-prone, greedy, polluting, unethical corporation – you can increase your positive impact. It’s for you to decide whether you’d have more leverage within that hostile environment or outside, in another position or role. The point is: you can choose to start the change right here and now. If you stay, if you are …

Breakaway from Workplace Bullying

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Guest post by Leslie Yerkes. One of the ways in which people try to effect change is through bullying. The act of bullying can be physical, emotional, psychological, or sexual. There are three aspects of bullying: being the bully, being bullied, or stopping bullying when you see it. Bullying may be common and a common part of living but it …

Managers and Musicians: Leading By Being Present

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Can musicians teach managers how to be better leaders? Maybe not. Teaching implies a top-down approach: transferring insights from one person to the other. But managers can learn from musicians. Learning implies a bottom-up process: pulling out, becoming aware of what is already present inside… Join me, as I learn from musicians in this workshop with an orchestra! I cannot …