Do others still bother you?

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You, too, are probably mistreated in one way or another. You might be overlooked, blamed, discriminated against, criticized in one context or another. But you still have the choice to see the other as a whole person. That is what great people did: they did not become bitter by their unjust treatment and saw others only as demons or caricatures. …

Do you engage in drama?

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A well-known example of Ego-interaction is the “drama triangle”, described by psychologist Stephen Karpman. One of your self-justifying narratives could be the prosecutor, the victim, or the rescuer. The Victim’s stance is “Poor me!” He feels oppressed, helpless, hopeless, ashamed, and can’t make decisions, solve problems, etc. The Victim always finds a Persecutor and a Rescuer – who both perpetuate …

How do I relate to others?

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How do you relate to others? When you look at situations the blind spot is yourself. As you are the source of attention, looking outward, it is not easy to “turn back the camera” and see yourself as part of the situation. Here lies an explanation for self-deception. You may conclude: the others are the problem, not you. Self-deception is …

Do you recognize these five fears?

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Brené Brown’s research showed that we have a shame-prone culture. Shame is the fear of not being worthy of belonging. Many suffer from shame – the fear of not being good enough. Shame also leads to blaming others as a way out of feeling this awful emotion. The remedy is to become shame-resilient and especially leaders should “dare greatly” and …

What’s your emotion ratio?

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How do you feel? But how you feel is crucial to developing a positive culture. You cannot fake it till you make it – as the saying goes. People have a radar for authenticity and if you don’t regularly experience positive emotions – you cannot “be the change” and embody positive leadership. What’s your emotion ratio? Barbara Frederickson’s research found …

What is your Purpose?

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You might have an idea of your big Why, your drive or purpose. What is the legacy you would like to leave? What is your contribution that you love to give, your strengths, values, and criteria? So, what is your purpose? Next, write down your vision and mission statement: an intention of who you want to be and how you …

What do you love to do?

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A colleague of mine once took a taxi from the airport. The taxi driver asked him what he did. He said he was a consultant who helped organizations become better at change and improve their performance. “That’s not what you do,” the driver disagreed. “What you do is what makes you happy. That’s your gift to the world regardless of …

How to change beliefs?

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Do you want to adopt the beliefs and behaviors of the positive mindset? I hope you do. This next part (about 14 blog posts) will be about the “inner work” you can do to develop your personal potential: change beliefs, know yourself better, find your purpose, transcend your fears and what is holding you back, and so on. If we …

Positive leaders are like WiFi

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Executive coach Steve Gladis also researched the researchers on positivity and wrote “Positive Leadership – the Game Changer at Work”. He quotes the notorious Gallup research: Currently, only 20% of the work population is actively engaged at work – so 80% are not! Many people dread going to work on Monday because their “conventional industrial age-organization” makes them suffer. This …

Why and how positivity pays off

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Professor Kim Cameron wrote “Positive Leadership – Strategies for extraordinary performance”, a concise guide that contains compelling research on the effects of Positive Leadership. It’s inspiring to see this collection of evidence – and to see what scientific research has confirmed. Although many findings may invoke a “duh” because it’s what you intuitively know to be true. Nevertheless, for the …

When on autopilot – is this how you think?

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It’s nice to discuss conventional and positive mindsets, but you’re probably so busy that you don’t normally think about your mental map. When you are busy and functioning on autopilot your conventional mindset is probably the navigator. Does this sound familiar? You hope for the best but prepare for the worst. You are behaving as a Taker, or a Matcher …