Do others still bother you?

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You, too, are probably mistreated in one way or another. You might be overlooked, blamed, discriminated against, criticized in one context or another. But you still have the choice to see the other as a whole person. That is what great people did: they did not become bitter by their unjust treatment and saw others only as demons or caricatures. …

Do you engage in drama?

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A well-known example of Ego-interaction is the “drama triangle”, described by psychologist Stephen Karpman. One of your self-justifying narratives could be the prosecutor, the victim, or the rescuer. The Victim’s stance is “Poor me!” He feels oppressed, helpless, hopeless, ashamed, and can’t make decisions, solve problems, etc. The Victim always finds a Persecutor and a Rescuer – who both perpetuate …

How do I relate to others?

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How do you relate to others? When you look at situations the blind spot is yourself. As you are the source of attention, looking outward, it is not easy to “turn back the camera” and see yourself as part of the situation. Here lies an explanation for self-deception. You may conclude: the others are the problem, not you. Self-deception is …

What does your body say?

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If you suspect that you might need to clean up some emotional issues before you can be an authentic person at work – Steve Sisgold is your man. In his practical book What is your body telling you? he shares many exercises to tap into the wisdom of your body and your inner knowing. We cannot embody positivity if we …

How is your energy?

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In The Power of Full Engagement, Jim Loehr and Tony Schwarz write that managing energy, not time, is the key to high performance. To be engaged, we must be energized physically, emotionally connected, mentally focused and spiritually aligned with a purpose beyond our self-interest. For that to happen we also need rest and recovery – something that is less valued …

How authentic can you be?

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I hope you are still reading this blog… Why do I go on about transcending fears and feeling safe in spite of human vulnerability? Because authenticity is essential for positive agents. Authenticity also fuels your courage, which helps to be the change you wish to see. Frederic Laloux labeled it “wholeness” in the reinvented, “Teal” organizations that he researched. People …

What are you grateful for?

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Gratitude has been found to increase individual and group performance and leads to positive behaviors. Paying gratitude visits (to say thank you), writing gratitude letters and keeping a gratitude journal are scientifically proven to work. The practice of keeping a gratitude journal is quite simple. Get a notebook and write down three things that you were grateful for this day. …

What’s your emotion ratio?

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How do you feel? But how you feel is crucial to developing a positive culture. You cannot fake it till you make it – as the saying goes. People have a radar for authenticity and if you don’t regularly experience positive emotions – you cannot “be the change” and embody positive leadership. What’s your emotion ratio? Barbara Frederickson’s research found …

How well do you know yourself?

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Research shows that you deliver your greatest contribution if you know yourself well and use your strengths and work according to your values. Here are some exercises and questions to use. The Best Possible Self (BPS) exercise asks you to envision yourself in an imaginary future while everything turned out in the best possible way. Writing and imagining a BPS …

Are you willing, able and ready?

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But what if challenging beliefs like we discussed in the last post doesn’t work? You are willing but not fully able to be a positive agent just yet. We’re not ready. We might need to do some inner work on the level ME. Why? Because you can’t erase your upbringing in the conventional mindset and your life experiences to date …

Why do we need the positive mindset of possibilities?

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Now that we’ve seen the positive mindset compared to a conventional mindset, and how it fits into our stages of human and organization development, let’s look at why this positive mindset is so important. Why would you try to think positive? Isn’t it safer to stay skeptical, or cynical about our current world and workplaces? You’ll save yourself the pain …

Teal Organizations and Cultures

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Let’s continue our discussion of the development stages as described by Frederic Laloux. In Evolutionary-Teal we shift from external yardsticks to internal ones in decision making. It doesn’t matter if I get what I want (Red), I conform to social norms (Amber), I am effective and successful (Orange) or that I belong and have a say (Green). Now, I check: …